Posts made in March, 2015

Getting Rid of Toxic Relationships

»Posted by on Mar 31, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

Somehow they get into your life. Often times they are relatives who have been there for a while and you grew up thinking they were normal. Sometimes they are friends who have been around for a while. Sometimes they are lovers. Sometimes they are bosses or coworkers. All of them have one thing in common; they appear to be on the up and up, and they seem as though they are respectful or supportive or that they find you special. But sooner or later it will dawn on you that that they are not who they seem, and you’ll have a hard time knowing what happened. Let me give you some examples of what I mean. A twisted father sexually abused his 6-year-old daughter, telling her she was his special favorite. She was in part flattered by his affections and by the fact she had...

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How to Stop Avoiding What Scares or Overwhelms You

»Posted by on Mar 30, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

Regardless of whether you struggle with anxiety, you probably avoid all sorts of things. We all do. These can include painful feelings; difficult conversations; bills and big projects; or situations where we might be judged or rejected. We avoid these things for all sorts of reasons, according to Melanie A. Greenberg, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist in Marin County, Calif., who specializes in managing stress, mood and relationships. It can be because we’re scared or anxious; because we don’t feel competent or don’t know where to start; or because the problem feels too big. It’s an unconscious habit that worked in childhood when we didn’t have the skills or power to change the situation, Greenberg said. (For instance, as a teen you hung out with your...

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5 Tips for Being More Patient in All Areas of Your Life

»Posted by on Mar 27, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

Many of us have a problem with patience. That is, we lack it. We might be impatient in all areas of our lives. Or we might get impatient in certain situations. We might get impatient while waiting in line at the store, or sitting in bumper-to-bumper traffic. Or waiting for an email to arrive in our inbox. Or hearing back from a potential employer. Of course, the pace of our world doesn’t help with cultivating patience. Our society’s tempo is rapid-fire. We press “send” on an email, and it works in seconds (and how annoyed do you get if it takes a few seconds longer to actually send?). Our food comes with a time guarantee, or it’s free. We’re able to walk into a grocery store, walk through any aisle and grab exactly what we need (without waiting hours...

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Finding the Space Between Trauma and Beauty

»Posted by on Mar 26, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

  Awhile back I had a consultation with life/career coach, Teresa Mossinger, in Susanville, Calif. I had seen Teresa two years earlier when I was transitioning from a full-time job to freelancing. Now I was making some more changes and wanted her advice again. As an opener, Teresa asked me to do a word association exercise. When she said the word “fear,” I immediately answered “blue.” She glanced back through her notes. “That’s exactly what you said two years ago. I remember because that’s such an unusual association. What is it about fear that says blue to you?” It didn’t take a lot of connecting the dots to figure it out. My most terrifying and traumatic memories go back to my early childhood. They involve a shed on an Ohio farm, an...

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Thinking Errors: 7 Signs You Are Communicating All Wrong

»Posted by on Mar 25, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

How do you communicate with those you care about, your co-workers, and your friends? Do you show them different sides of yourself or are you always the same person? Do you believe that there are rules to communication? Many of my clients simply believe that communication does not entail a host of different skills but should only consist of talking. What many of them fail to realize is that communication is often influenced by internal thoughts as well as body language. Both of these things either contribute to or detract from the conversation. Even more, poor communication skills are to blame for miscommunication, arguments, and confusion. For individuals who are suffering from mental health conditions, it can be really difficult if not impossible (depending on...

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