Posts made in June, 2015

Stop Blame from Controlling Your Life

»Posted by on Jun 22, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

Stop Blame from Controlling Your Life

Everyone’s been there: “I hate the way I look — I wish my mom would have instilled more confidence in me.” “I suck at sports. Great job teaching me the basics, dad.” “I’m too freakishly neurotic to ever find peace in my life — my parents really screwed me up.” Maybe all of that is true. We don’t get to choose our parents. (It might be an even more catastrophic world if that were the case.) If you didn’t want children, yet one miraculously appeared in your life nine months later, then a good thing to do involves treating that child like a human being. Children are not stupid. They pick up on things. They internalize these things. Twenty, 30 or 40 years later, they are talking to a therapist about these things. The tricky part is when you...

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Build a Stress-Resilient Brain: Findings and Strategies

»Posted by on Jun 22, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

Build a Stress-Resilient Brain: Findings and Strategies

Resiliency has been defined as the ability to deal with adversity, be it small daily stressors or unexpected traumatic events. More specifically, resiliency is seen as having the capacity to return to successful adaptation and functioning even after a period of disorganization and disruption. Most often, resiliency has been considered a function of our ability to call upon enduring personal attributes as physical strength, intelligence, interpersonal strengths, independence, sense of humor, creativity and spirituality. While these are no doubt valuable assets for coping, recent research offers good news– we can actually build resiliency. Building Resilience–Findings According to scientists like Steven Southwick and Dennis Charney, resilience is actually tied...

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Are You Too Emotionally Invested in Your Job?

»Posted by on Jun 22, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

Are You Too Emotionally Invested in Your Job?

For many of us, career ranks as a top priority in our lives. We care about our jobs deeply, pushing ourselves to continually work harder to ascend to higher levels of success. We care so much about our work that it becomes ingrained in our identity and self-image. However, this work-first mentality has its downsides. Those of us who pride ourselves on being career-oriented can get so wrapped up and emotionally invested in our jobs that it negatively affects our overall happiness and mood. While there’s nothing wrong with caring about your career, problems arise when you let work control your feelings and behaviors. If you slip into the realm of being too emotionally invested in your professional identity, there comes a point when it brings you down more than it...

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Parent’s Beliefs About Children Influences School Performance

»Posted by on Jun 22, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

Parent’s Beliefs About Children Influences School Performance

A new study has found that parents’ beliefs about their children — and the comparisons they make — impact how children do in school — and beyond. “Parents’ beliefs about their children, not just their actual parenting, may influence who their children become,” said Brigham Young University professor Dr. Alex Jensen, who was lead author of the study. For the study, which focused on siblings and academic achievement, Jensen and co-author Susan McHale from Pennsylvania State looked at 388 teenage first- and second-born siblings and their parents from 17 school districts in a northeastern state. The researchers asked the parents which sibling was better in school. The majority of parents thought that the firstborn was better, although on average,...

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How A Narcissist Verbally Abuses

»Posted by on Jun 22, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

How A Narcissist Verbally Abuses

Narcissistic verbal abuse is powerful. A talented narcissist can wear you down and then spin you around so fast before you realize what has happened. Somehow, the narcissist convinces you that what is up is really down and the verbal assaults are actually your fault. For this reason, verbal abuse is a favorite tactic of narcissists. It very quickly intimidates the target while simultaneously establishing their dominance and superiority. The attack usually catches the target off-guard thus assuring victory. All of this is done to gain control and manipulate a person into doing something. The pattern is similar whether the narcissist is a spouse, parent, employer, coach, manager, or preacher. It first begins in secret, is infrequent, is mild in tone with minimal...

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