Posts made in August, 2015

How to Handle Losing a Loved One

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How to Handle Losing a Loved One

At some point in our lives we will all lose someone we are close to and love. Although this is part of  life, it can often devastate people and act as a setback. While it is important to acknowledge the loss of someone special to you, it is also important to allow yourself to move on.  Here are some ways to help cope with the loss that you can practice on your own: Make space in your life for your loss. This means allowing yourself some time alone without work, email, social media or other distractions to feel the loss and process it. Give yourself an adequate amount of time to grieve. This will be different for everyone, but don’t expect to get over losing a loved one in a day. And if you are able to move on quickly don’t feel guilty about it....

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Daily Reminders for Staying Positive

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Daily Reminders for Staying Positive

Everyone has rough days, and sometimes rough days can turn into rough weeks, months, and years. It can be hard to stay positive when things go wrong, especially when there is nothing that you can do to change or fix the problem.  For most people the hardest part of having struggles is knowing that there is ultimately nothing that they can do to change their current situation. Although changing the things that happen around you may not be realistic, your thinking is something that you are in total control of at all times. Staying positive actually helps critical thinking and coping during stressful situations, allowing you to make the best decisions possible during a crisis. Here are 7 important things to tell yourself daily to stay positive, no matter what you...

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How to Know if You Are Enabling An Addict

»Posted by on Aug 10, 2015 in Alpha Blog | 0 comments

Who recognizes that they are enabling? Who enables so intentionally? And yet, if we have addicts in our lives, we must look carefully at how we interact with them. How do we handle a loved one with an addiction? The years of dealing with the addiction of a loved one blind us to our own actions and their consequences. Much of what we think is “helping” can actually be quite harmful. SIGNS YOU ARE ENABLING AN ADDICT: Do you make excuses for the addict (e.g., lying to an employer to explain why the addict isn’t showing up for work)? Do you lie or deceive to protect the addict or your family’s image? Do you intentionally overlook bad behavior, saying that the addict “can’t help it?” Do you feel like you bear the brunt of consequences for the addict’s...

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5 Ways to Help Yourself When You Are Depressed

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5 Ways to Help Yourself When You Are Depressed

When you are dealing with depression, everything in your life can seem harder. Here are 5 things you can do for yourself to make your life a little easier. 1. Give something away to someone who could use it. I know this sounds silly at first. Shouldn’t I be telling you to buy yourself something instead? Well no. Giving something away will help you in several ways. First, you will feel better because you helped someone. Second, say, for example, you have gained or lost weight and have clothes in your closet that don’t fit. Or an exercise bike you only use to hang your laundry on. Or a lamp you hate but keep because it was a gift. Now you have clutter and guilt to deal with. Neither of which are helping you feel better. Last, remember that the Universe HATES a...

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Narcissistic Parenting

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Narcissistic Parenting

Narcissistic parents have the same characteristics as narcissists. They admire and overestimate themselves to compensate for inner (unconscious) feelings of inadequacy. They tend to be selfish and self-involved and approve of those who admire them (provide them with narcissistic supplies) and condemn those who do not. They can’t have authentic, loving relationships because they aren’t empathic and tend to be egocentric as well (viewing things only from their point of view). All of these things adversely affect their parenting. As parents they tend to form family myths. Generally the myths are about how glorious their family is. An offshoot to this idealization of the family is an idealization of themselves as parents. Children are indoctrinated from an early...

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