Daily Reminders for Staying Positive

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Daily Reminders for Staying Positive

Everyone has rough days, and sometimes rough days can turn into rough weeks, months, and years. It can be hard to stay positive when things go wrong, especially when there is nothing that you can do to change or fix the problem.  For most people the hardest part of having struggles is knowing that there is ultimately nothing that they can do to change their current situation.

Although changing the things that happen around you may not be realistic, your thinking is something that you are in total control of at all times. Staying positive actually helps critical thinking and coping during stressful situations, allowing you to make the best decisions possible during a crisis.

Here are 7 important things to tell yourself daily to stay positive, no matter what you may be going through:

#1.YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID. No matter how you are feeling, you need to accept those feelings as being real. Even if the feeling is irrational or not positive, still acknowledge it. Allowing yourself to accept and process your current emotions will allow you to move on and understand why you may be feeling that way. Always be honest with yourself about what you are feeling.

#2. YOU ALWAYS SURVIVE. You may have heard the saying “So far my track record for making it through bad days is 100% so I’m doing a pretty good job”. And it’s true! No matter what life has thrown at you thus far, you have continued to grow, learn , and live. You have proven to yourself and to everyone around you that you are capable of getting through everything so far, and whatever you are growing through now is something that you will add to that list one day.

#3.IT’S OKAY TO CRY. You might be the one in the room who is drowning in your own tears, or you may just be the one who vents to your best friend. Either way it’s good to release the negativity. There is nothing wrong with crying or showing emotion as it comes to you. People who internalize emotions rater than allowing themselves to feel and express those emotions are the ones who often have a major crisis somewhere down the line. Suppressing emotions is essentially just avoiding feeling emotions. Avoiding having emotions doesn’t make you strong, or even help you get over them quicker. In fact it’s the exact opposite. Avoiding showing emotions leads to you continuing to feel the emotion longer because you can’t let it go. Also holding your emotions in will do nothing for your emotional resilience or strength, because you won’t learn anything from the experience. This means if you have a similar experience in the future, you more than likely won’t be able to handle it or cope with it any better than you did the first time. So if you need to cry, cry. Get it out and let it go. And then move on, and handle it better next time.

#4.IT ALWAYS GETS BETTER. This one may be hard to believe. If you are having the worst day of your life, in all honesty, tomorrow may or may not be better. Your situation in fact may get worse. This saying is true because even if tomorrow is worse than today, you will be able to handle it better than you did today knowing what you learned from  your past experiences. Likewise, if a situation as a whole has made a turn for the worse you will adapt, change, and learn from it and the emotions and feelings associated with the situation will get better.

#5.YOU’RE WORTHY OF LOVE. It’s true, as a living being you are worthy of healthy love. Even when you feel that you are a terrible person or you have done terrible things, you still deserve to be treated with respect and love. Never allow yourself or others to make you feel like you aren’t a good enough person to be treated with dignity and kindness. Keep in mind that “love” should be a healthy relationship with others, one that is void of controlling behavior or harmful effects. In turn, you are responsible for how you treat the people you care about and interact with. Always remember that everyone deserves at least respect.

#6.BE GRATEFUL AND PRACTICE MINDFULNESS. This seems simple enough, but for many it is one of the hardest things to do when in stressful situations. Being grateful and mindful really go hand in hand. Mindfulness is just basically focusing on the moment that you are in, focusing on being present in that moment, and not judging the feelings that you are experiencing. Doing this will actually help you be grateful, and vice versa. Focusing on the present, not what has already happened or may happen, allows you to see the reality of the situation. Although things may seem horrible, if you focus on the present moment you will see all that you have (no matter how little) and you will be grateful for it just as it is, not as you would like it to  be. Rather than thinking “this is horrible, why did this happen?” , you can think “I wasn’t expecting this, what can I learn from this experience?”.  Accepting the situation that you are going through without judging it allows you to process and move on. Always remember the long list of things that you have that you are thankful for, even if they aren’t perfect.

#7.NO FEELING IS FINAL. The good news is feelings are mostly transient, and you won’t have to live with your current feelings forever. If you think back to the worst thing that happened to you 5 years ago, or the situation that broke your heart last year , you’ll realize you no longer feel as strongly about the situation. You may not feel anything about it at all. Remind yourself that in time you will not feel the same emotion as intensely about whatever you are currently dealing with.  Feelings often leave as quickly as they come, so don’t let your current emotion determine everything that you do in the future. It’s very rare that you feel the same way about a situation a month after it happens as you did immediatlely after it happened.

No matter what you’re struggling with, remind yourself that you are strong and capable of getting through it. Often times people find therapy a good outlet to help them feel, express, and deal with their emotions. Don’t hesitate to reach out to us at utahsbesttherapy.com if you feel like you need our help in dealing with your struggles.

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